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I'm a Happy SAHM, Yet...

Being a stay at home mom is a mess of contradictions.

It is liberating yet, it feels suffocating at times.

I long for the days when I problems solved with a team at work, yet I don't want to go back. I don't want to be tied to deadlines and what someone else deems important, yet I know I have the same thing here at home as well.

I don't want to miss a thing in my kids' lives, yet I am dreading going on the field trip, and being trapped all day with over a hundred second graders.

I sometimes feel guilty that my husband battles a long commute and works all day, yet I also resent his off time on the weekends when he gets up, runs, watches football or does whatever he wants while my "job" continues, 7 days a week.

I feel guilty for being mad about it because I know I have stolen moments throughout the day here and there to do what I want to do, yet it is nothing like a day off with someone else taking care of everything that usually falls on me.

I feel loved by m…
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7 Things People Do on Facebook that Drive Me Crazy

Ahhh, Facebook. FB is great for sharing photos, moments, memories, complaints, bad experiences, triumphs, big and small announcements, and everything in between. Lately, however, I've found myself becoming more and more irritated as I scroll through it, and here are my biggest pet peeves.

1. People don't consider their audience.

You have 842 "friends" consisting of everyone you can track down that you went to school with (Elementary, Middle HS and College), your kids' friends parents or anyone you have talked to at your kid's school, their teachers, family, neighbors, work colleagues (past and present), church members, and the crew hat makes your cappuccino at Starbucks.

No one has been left out, and therein lies the problem. Everyone sees everything, and only about 16 of your "friends" care about any given post (psst, that's just 2%). The rest of us have to sift through all the crap you post that is not of interest or relevant to get to somethi…

If You Want to Feel More Empowered Stop Doing This

Do you feel trapped in a situation? Helpless? Like there is nothing you can do?

There is.

Make a decision and own it.

Stop bitching about it. Stop saying you have no choice. Stop using your situation or the people around you as an excuse. Stop saying, "It is what it is" and letting the cards fall where they may.

You know what kind of people don't have decision making power? Victims.  If you want to be a victim, keep saying things like "but what can I do?" after a major bitch session while shrugging your shoulders.

When you pretend like you have no choice, you are abdicating responsibility for your life, and turning it over to someone or something else. That is the opposite of empowerment (and adulthood), and it will slowly erode your self-respect and confidence in yourself.

I'm not saying that people and circumstances don't impact or influence your choices.  If you have children, that will impact your options.  Maybe you can't go live in a yurt …

Do You Wonder How That Special Needs Kid Affects Yours In the Classroom? (2 minute read)

This was a conversation that I had with one of my fellow mom friends about a classmate in her daughter's class.  There are so many lessons children can teach us, if we only take the time to listen and to understand.  The beauty and pureness in their souls are amazing, and my hope for the world is  that light to never become dimmed. 

My daughter has a child in her kindergarten class that hardly speaks, struggles to understand the rules of kindergarten, really struggles to follow them, cannot use scissors properly, often runs out of the classroom, or can be found sitting in the middle of the classroom or hall putting on his shoes for 15 minutes as he struggles to tie them perfectly symmetrically. Someone has to be with him almost every minute of the day.How will this child impact my daughter’s education?Will she struggle to learn to read this year?How can she learn to add or subtract?
I volunteer when I have time in the library helping her class with the library lesson of the day an…

Beating Depression and Other Demons

I have these lines, these boundaries that I don't or won't cross.  They keep me in check.  They keep me from turning into my grandfather, my grandmother, and my father.  These boundaries that I guard so carefully keep me from living the lonely life of an alcoholic.  There are demons that I know are out there waiting to snatch me up if I cross too far into their territory.  The Depression demon whispers that everything is so hard, relationships, putting one foot in front of the other, all of it.  Why can't anyone else clean up around here?  Why are people such assholes?  Why, why, why?  That depression demon triggers anger.  I don't want to be angry, so I isolate myself from those situations that make me angry, you know, the ones with people in them.

My Dad wasn't always an alcoholic, but he has always been depressed and angry.  When he drinks, he isn't angry.  Angry or drunk though, he never had a great relationship with anyone for more than a year.  No frien…

Best Underwear for Women (Sexy and Comfortable)

My recommendation for the most comfortable, pretty, no panty line showing underwear out there. I'm 40 and I have had two children.  I just don't want to wear a thong anymore.  I'll take comfort over sexy.  At this point in our lives with two busy careers and two busy children, my husband is just happy if he gets laid semi-regularly.  I don't think he is even paying attention to my underwear.  Looking at my cellulite in a thong doesn't make me feel attractive either.  However, I'm not dead yet, and I want to feel attractive, and comfortable, and I don't want panty lines, so what's a girl to do?

Enter Soma Vanishing Edge series from Soma (www.soma.com).
They disappear under your clothes, even the sheerest of summer dresses, and they stay put thanks to these little gripper strips on the cheeks.  They are super comfy too and come in microfiber and cotton.  I have used both.  I don't wear them to the gym though because they are my "fancy" un…